I have a very irritating and wonderful friend who, if I tell her some problem I'm experiencing, will insist on helping me solve it. It'll be like
Me: I can't get this work done.
Her: Why not?
Me: It's impossible
Her: What's impossible about it?
Me: I don't even know how to use this program
Her: So could you look up how to use it?
Me: You just don't GET IT, it's IMPOSSIBLE
And then I do the stupid thing. What's nice is that I've known this annoying and delightful person for about 10 years now, so I don't even have to have the conversation anymore. I can just think, "What would Christine tell me to do?" In fact I put it (WWCTMTD) on one of those silly plastic bracelets that people used to put things like Livestrong on. (I only wear it very occasionally; I'm not a maniac.)
I don’t have much to say beyond "I really really like your stuff, Adam", but, hey, that’s still something worth saying, right? You’re an awesome writer, as well as being a very insightful blogger. And this post will go straight to my "very useful mental health resources" folder, along with what you wrote on poisoned skulls (which, incidentally, came out while I was recovering from a depression, and has helped me a lot).
I wish I could have just hauled around the 3x5 card versions of each of these and handed them out as needed over the course of the New Year's party conversations.
Other thought -- I often find that people who experience serious tragedy (like Yagamuchi who you refer to) but have solid support systems tend to have a much better outlook on life than those who are very privileged, like the well-off people you mentioned who think cake is impossible.
I was in a near-fatal car accident 3 years ago, and despite the horror of it all and the agonizing recovery, I was fairly bog-free. I was just happy to be alive. Just this past year I’ve slipped back into bog, feeling stuck at work, stuck with body limitations, getting more anxious, etc. I think it’s really easy to forget the lessons of that kind of thing when faced with the drudgery of work, or whatever tries to drag you into the bog.
If anyone has any ideas on how to remember those lessons, lmk I’m all ears. I want out of bog 😤
I think you are suffering from terribly low self esteem, or you simply haven't caught up to 21st century research, as in:
How do I know that Big Pharma has planted tracking chips in the vaccine? I've done the research.
How do I know that vaccines cause autism? I've done the research.
How do I know that RFK Jr. is right in his claim that all we need to detail with climate change is let the markets take over? I've done the research.
How do I know that a certain group of businessmen have used lasers to create the wildfires out west? I've done the research.
See, it's easy. You can teach pilots to fly if you've done the research.
There's so many things the internet has to teach us. On a slightly different note, consider all the
neurosurgeons who felt genuine relief when surgeon Ben Carson ran his specularly inept presidential campaign. For so many years people had been saying, "You know, it [whatever 'it' might be] is not brain science," putting pressure on these brain scientists to show they knew everything.
Now, when people say, "You're a brain scientist, how can you not understand this?" they just point to Carson!
See. Well, you can thank me for giving you the key to genius. Just do the research, and trust the internet. All of it. Even Adam Mastroianni's blog!
You absolutely went off on the floor is lava section. When I first started running in the morning, I refused to make oatmeal, despite it being super convenient to make and making me have so much more stamina on runs. I'd say that I was "morally against oatmeal" as a joke, and also that my mother spoiled me with the most delicious breakfasts, and I could never change, and lower my standards to such a mediocre tasting breakfast. Other people didn't have this problem because they were lucky to not have my mother making delicious food, they didn't know what they were missing out on in life.
This literally went on for like half a year before I realized I was just being dramatic and really needed the energy, and started eating oatmeal for breakfast 😭
A lot of the self productivity systems are bog-generators. I recently tried to adopt Getting Things Done, and I feel that it has added stress more than anything else to my life. It forces me into Obsessing over tiny predictors, or into The floor is lava.
But on the other hand, I did adopt GTD because I needed to change my approach to my PhD project, and I managed to solve some problems with GTD, and generate others. Perhaps it is a bog-converter, turning one bog into another.
I hate that I didn’t write this, but I’m incredibly grateful you did. 🙏🏼 Thank you!
““Hmm, I dunno, do you have any solutions that involve me doing everything 100% exactly like I'm doing it right now, and getting better outcomes?””
Most insightful sentence of 2024 right here, and it’s only been 2 days
I have a very irritating and wonderful friend who, if I tell her some problem I'm experiencing, will insist on helping me solve it. It'll be like
Me: I can't get this work done.
Her: Why not?
Me: It's impossible
Her: What's impossible about it?
Me: I don't even know how to use this program
Her: So could you look up how to use it?
Me: You just don't GET IT, it's IMPOSSIBLE
And then I do the stupid thing. What's nice is that I've known this annoying and delightful person for about 10 years now, so I don't even have to have the conversation anymore. I can just think, "What would Christine tell me to do?" In fact I put it (WWCTMTD) on one of those silly plastic bracelets that people used to put things like Livestrong on. (I only wear it very occasionally; I'm not a maniac.)
Thank you for drawing me a map of my brain. I don’t know how to de-bog myself, but I’m grateful for the new vocabulary. Maybe it will help.
I don’t have much to say beyond "I really really like your stuff, Adam", but, hey, that’s still something worth saying, right? You’re an awesome writer, as well as being a very insightful blogger. And this post will go straight to my "very useful mental health resources" folder, along with what you wrote on poisoned skulls (which, incidentally, came out while I was recovering from a depression, and has helped me a lot).
I wish I could have just hauled around the 3x5 card versions of each of these and handed them out as needed over the course of the New Year's party conversations.
Other thought -- I often find that people who experience serious tragedy (like Yagamuchi who you refer to) but have solid support systems tend to have a much better outlook on life than those who are very privileged, like the well-off people you mentioned who think cake is impossible.
I was in a near-fatal car accident 3 years ago, and despite the horror of it all and the agonizing recovery, I was fairly bog-free. I was just happy to be alive. Just this past year I’ve slipped back into bog, feeling stuck at work, stuck with body limitations, getting more anxious, etc. I think it’s really easy to forget the lessons of that kind of thing when faced with the drudgery of work, or whatever tries to drag you into the bog.
If anyone has any ideas on how to remember those lessons, lmk I’m all ears. I want out of bog 😤
I think you are suffering from terribly low self esteem, or you simply haven't caught up to 21st century research, as in:
How do I know that Big Pharma has planted tracking chips in the vaccine? I've done the research.
How do I know that vaccines cause autism? I've done the research.
How do I know that RFK Jr. is right in his claim that all we need to detail with climate change is let the markets take over? I've done the research.
How do I know that a certain group of businessmen have used lasers to create the wildfires out west? I've done the research.
See, it's easy. You can teach pilots to fly if you've done the research.
There's so many things the internet has to teach us. On a slightly different note, consider all the
neurosurgeons who felt genuine relief when surgeon Ben Carson ran his specularly inept presidential campaign. For so many years people had been saying, "You know, it [whatever 'it' might be] is not brain science," putting pressure on these brain scientists to show they knew everything.
Now, when people say, "You're a brain scientist, how can you not understand this?" they just point to Carson!
See. Well, you can thank me for giving you the key to genius. Just do the research, and trust the internet. All of it. Even Adam Mastroianni's blog!
You absolutely went off on the floor is lava section. When I first started running in the morning, I refused to make oatmeal, despite it being super convenient to make and making me have so much more stamina on runs. I'd say that I was "morally against oatmeal" as a joke, and also that my mother spoiled me with the most delicious breakfasts, and I could never change, and lower my standards to such a mediocre tasting breakfast. Other people didn't have this problem because they were lucky to not have my mother making delicious food, they didn't know what they were missing out on in life.
This literally went on for like half a year before I realized I was just being dramatic and really needed the energy, and started eating oatmeal for breakfast 😭
Great article
A great article. I'll hopefully get out this year.
This was fantastic !!!! I feel myself elevating out of the bog now !!! Sharing
A lot of the self productivity systems are bog-generators. I recently tried to adopt Getting Things Done, and I feel that it has added stress more than anything else to my life. It forces me into Obsessing over tiny predictors, or into The floor is lava.
But on the other hand, I did adopt GTD because I needed to change my approach to my PhD project, and I managed to solve some problems with GTD, and generate others. Perhaps it is a bog-converter, turning one bog into another.
This was as hilarious as it was insightful. Great read :)
I liked this. We're it not for your prior individual insights on how people process advice, I might actually send it to a few people!
Excellent! I'm forwarding this to a couple of people (and maybe more).